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Is your child being rude in public, perhaps sassing you, or defying you?
I know you are feeling embarrassed and also that his behavior is making you very frustrated and also stressed and worried.
First of all try to focus on the behavior of your child say at the mall instead of the reaction others are having to your child, think about it carefully, if this action were taking place at home, how would you handle it and stop this rude behavior. Then you need to respond just as you would if you were at home.
Before leaving home let your child know your expectations of him in a public place, let him know there are rules for behavior at home or away from home and that you expect him to follow these rules. If you instill this in your child before leaving home, chances are you'll have better results in a public place. Let him know if these rules are broken there will be consequences, depending on the age of the child, time outs, loss of priviledges, time away from video games, etc.
Do let your child know you are upset by his behavior in public and that if it continues it will be worse when he gets home. Tell him that as soon as you do arrive home you will be sitting down at the table and you will be discussing
his wrong behavior and also will be discussing the behavior you expect of him. Be very firm about this and don't get home and forget to follow up just because he has been really sweet on the way home in the car as he hopes you will
forgive and forget but that is wrong if you do.
Now don't expect behavior from a three year old to be the same as from a ten year old, adjust your expectations by the age of the child, this is very important. Sometimes we have to have the same expectations at home as we do in public and this helps your child to learn what is approved and what is not approved in his behavior.
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